Texting and relationships: Too much of a good thing?


The perils of school divide young lovers physically for almost eight hours a day. A remedy for this chasm of anxiety for couples is the buzz of a text.

The age of cell phones, and to a lesser extent smartphones, has given couples young and old a method of constant communication. Much of the time in class you can almost guarantee that someone will be texting their significant other with the heart emoji or another cliche form of affection.

But a problem arises with the fact that constant communication is harmful to relationships overall.

A 2013 Brigham Young University study found that among people, especially males, who texted multiple times a day, satisfaction in relationships was lower than those who don’t.

It’s not hard to see why. While the study noted that positive texts are often beneficial to a relationship, when texts veer into the mundane and negative, texts reveal an unhappy relationship or even a controlling one.

Among younger people in a relationship, like those in high school, texting is more prevalent and frequent than ever.

Psychology Today reports that 20 percent of younger females in a relationship can text up to 30 times an hour with their significant others.

There can be times when it’s best to take a step back and give each other room, which could lead to a healthier relation overall.

The important part about this is that texting doesn’t have to be detrimental to the relationship. Benefits of texting include an absence of nonverbal cues. This means that the message meant to be sent is also the one received. Another benefit is that texts can be crafted to get a concentrated amount of information in a small space, meaning that conversations don’t have to drag on endlessly.

That texting can be useful to a relationship is not a surprise. It’s an important form of communication. For LB students however, texting constantly in class, and elsewhere, shouldn’t be prioritized.

“It’s not really necessary to text constantly,” senior Annina Zelkin said. “At some points it even becomes a hassle, so I’d tell [people who do text constantly] to put [the phone] away, It’s not that important.”